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Grief & How to Survive

If you are here reading this, you are in pain and I’m hoping I can help you in some way.

Profound grief can come from a loss in many forms.  It is inevitable with the loss of a parent, child, friend, spouse, sibling.  It can be a loss by death, abandonment or betrayal.

But it can also be the loss of faith in a religion you have held dear for a long time, that formed your full scope of coping mechanisms in life & provided your extended ‘family’ before the rug was pulled from beneath you.  It can be leaving home to board at school or going to university, or a child leaving.

The cause of a grief can be obvious and recognizable by everyone, but don’t discount something that seems too small to cause ‘true’ grief.  Often there is a lot wrapped up in a painful incident that you might not be consciously aware of.  It can speak to you from other griefs that you haven’t healed and call for them to be healed alongside. Trust your instinct. Acknowledging this can validate your feelings and cause you to be kinder to yourself.

A bereavement is likely to leave you gutted and helpless and might feel terribly unmanageable.   I’m here to offer some strategies that can make it livable and bring you through the healing you’ll need to do.  With this kind of support and these strategies, you can avoid hiding from your grief and avoid maintaining it as a wound that will not heal.  You can avoid having to hide from memories of the person that you lost in order to merely survive, losing the person more thoroughly in the process of hiding.

Homeopathy for grief

I have seen great help from a homeopathic remedy called Ignatia, especially when you cannot cry and need to be alone and the grief cannot lift.   You will feel a weight in your chest and likely a lump sensation in your throat.  You may have a bad temper too.  People frequently can’t behave well during grieving and if you are containing a lot of pain silently this can explode out as anger.  Forgive yourself and and know you are doing your best right now.

In the first stages of grief, it can feel like a panic attack.  Aconite as a homeopathic remedy can help here to still the panic.  You are not going to feel wonderful, nothing can do that, but it is possible to weather the storms.

Usually, I would recommend a single dose of 10M potency [aconite if needed and then ignatia].  It can be ordered from www.Helios.co.uk or www.sourcehomeopathy.com in the USA.  If you are not so sure, contact a homeopath or Helios/Source who will be happy to help you, or book a 15 min chat with me at www.calendly.com/sallylloydhomeopathy/15. I can give you simple potency advice or book you in for a more thorough support call.

After a grief, acute health problems like pleurisy and quinsy are not uncommon.  Act soon and get help.  These can be healed with homeopathy.  I had to heal both pleurisy and quinsy for myself soon after my brother’s death.  Family situations can be very difficult and traumatic and add to the grief, and health problems caused by the strain.

After the death of my brother, I found this piece of writing incredibly reassuring.  I don’t want to forget him or hide him away so I don’t feel the pain, even if I could.
I hope G Snow’s writing will help you to know you will survive and that it will get easier to remember your loved one without being broken all over again and I hope homeopathy can help soothe you too.
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My brother Richard was lost overboard in 2013 at age 30.  We never found out what happened to him or why and the grief for my family has been long and difficult.  I really hope you will be able to come to terms with what has happened to you.  I hope this article goes a small way toward helping.

Best wishes
Sally

Avoiding The Illness Trap

How can we avoid children growing up seeking safety and status in illness and a hiding place from criticism?  We are living with an additional obstacle to getting well, and it is epidemic.

We prioritise people (particularly children) when they are ill or grieving.  It’s right that we should.  However, we should be aware that people can fail to feel important and acknowledged when they are well, and this can lead to a learned trap.


As children, we are most vulnerable to learning to feel important mainly when ill. Our culture can be pretty harsh and intolerant to children.  We see the things children suffer over as petty, although the suffering is all too real.
Convention means we suspend harsh treatment & offer more love during times of suffering, but this can become a trap. Our best times can be times of illness if our needs & feelings are not acknowledged as children until we are ill and ‘special’.  
If you had a ‘good’ childhood, you can still absorb this idea or gut feeling.  As children, we are less able to decide what to make of our experiences.
I have a personal understanding of this & I’ve had to battle with this trap.
Protecting yourself from criticism or making yourself feel loved and important by subconsciously (or consciously) recovering more slowly from or holding onto illness or grief can be a very life-limiting & painful position to be trapped in.

We need to show love and acknowledge our kids’ feelings when they are not ill, deliberately and purposefully … because it can be a far LESS obvious time to do so.
Why stop with children?  Inside of all adults is a child that was told to stop crying or ‘making a fuss’.

The best way to help someone feel loved and valued and to help them heal from this trap is to acknowledge their feelings without measuring the validity of those feelings by our own judgment system.If you are looking for support with how to begin to do this as a parent, Pam Leo wrote a wonderful book called Connection Parenting.  <3

Trap of illness.
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School Phobia & Homesickness: Robert’s Case

Robert boards at a school in the UK. He came to me to talk about his miserable homesickness, which was causing school phobia. At the end of our consultation, I asked him about his voice. I knew he was a chorister but his voice was deep and strangled. Surely it wasn’t normally like that. Neither he nor his mum had noticed until then that his voice changed just before returning to school. Combining this marked change with the grief he felt about leaving his mum & about his grandfather’s death some years before, I gave him a single dose of Ignatia 10M there and then in my home office (and spares to take home).

Robert returned to school without feeling tearful and managed really well. He’s had 1 repeat of his remedy after a relapse but otherwise is fine, a year on from our consultation, and has been able to continue with the singing he loves.

Ignatia is a good remedy for ‘silent’ grief, when the person is unable to cry, though you may see more crying in Ignatia children than adults. You might also expect to hear the person sigh often, but I’d observed no sighing with Robert when I was interviewing him. The characteristic constriction in the throat gave it away.

If you have a child with school phobia due to separation anxiety, or you suffer from grief or homesickness, speak to me about how I can help you.
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